"Mommy made me mad"

Our 4-year old son Kanyon is a behaviorally-challenged child. When he was 9 months old, he started banging his head whenever he was upset, and unfortunately he's never stopped the habit. His tantrums are worse on the weekends because when everyone is home from school and work, his routine is messed up. It's a noisier environment on the weekends, and Kanyon doesn't get to do whatever he wants like he gets to during the week when the other boys are in school.

3 weeks ago, on a Sunday afternoon, we were watching TV and Kanyon got super mad about something or other. He started screaming and crying and banging his head in the living room. I put him in time-out in his bedroom to cool down and have some quiet time alone. Usually after 10 or 20 minutes, he calms himself down and comes out. But after 45 minutes, he was still mad and was still screaming and banging his head. And while he was in his room, he broke his window.

When we asked him how it happened, his reply was "Mommy made me mad". He was so mad about being put in time-out that he not only banged his head on the floor and on the bed, but he also banged it on the window. And he did it hard enough to break it. Unbelievable.

Kanyon has developed a very strong head from years of banging it on hard surfaces. Breaking the window didn't hurt him one bit. I wish I could say the same for the window. Thankfully, the window is double-paned, so the cold air isn't coming through to his bedroom because we had to special order a new piece of glass for it and it still hasn't arrived.

It's rather disturbing to think that my 4-year-old can be so destructive with his head. I'm worried that the older he gets, and the stronger he gets, the more things will get destroyed...